Why not celebrate someone like you this International Women's Day?

Instead we are inundated with inspirational stories about successful businesswomen – and for that read white and seemingly heterosexual – or world leaders – and for that, read black, possibly activist and probably heterosexual.

While I think it is important to celebrate major achievements for women at home and around the world, these successes and the women who stand behind them seem a million miles away from most of us and our own realities.

The story of the successful businesswoman is sadly not a common one in the UK, where I live. We like to hear it because it helps us forget about the more familiar stories, which are not as exciting and glamorous, but few of us see it being played out by our friends or colleagues. Those less exciting stories should not be relegated on this important day.

The first of them is the non-story – the story of “not much worth mentioning” – at least according to International Women’s Day standards. Many of us feature in this story. We work, but we never get noticed. We work harder, but we still don’t get noticed. In many ways we resemble the high-achieving woman, but somehow, we don’t quite make it (at least not to the top).

The second is the story of the undesirable. This is the story of women who are punished in different ways for failing to be anything like the high-achievers celebrated every March. This story is of the pain, frustration, disappointment, marginalisation and alienation of women who happen to be black and in business, disabled, working class, queer, or simply different. It is a story that needs to be told, but I wonder who is listening.

The workplace is not kind to these women. Black and ethnic minority women continue to be discriminated against at every stage of the recruitment process and also in the workplace itself. So are people, and dare I say women with disabilities. Queer women are more than twice as likely to be bullied, harassed and discriminated against as heterosexual women, even when their sexuality is not “officially” known to others. These women are not only different – they are made to feel different, and in some cases, out of place at work.

The human and organisational cost of marginalising some women should not be taken lightly. It stunts career progression and disadvantages women economically, socially and possibly psychologically. Organisations lose qualified workers, profit and can suffer damage to their reputation.

And there are worse stories. The horror story of women who never make it to the workplace or are booted out as soon as people discover that they are too different. Sadly, we are talking about the same group of women here – those who may tick more than one of the different boxes – but it may also simply be women who look “too old”, “too young”, “too fat” or “too ugly”, in other words, women who fail to look the part.

International Women’s Day should be a celebration of women, but every year it becomes a celebration limited to women who can showcase significant accomplishments.

Most of us will never make it onto an International Women’s Day celebrity list. We might have a job, but we still won’t make the list. The truth is that our contributions, however small or large, are often overlooked and many will be passed over for promotion.

Being ordinary does not seem to get women far at work, but neither does being different.

This year, let’s ignore the big brash awards ceremonies, the top-women-achiever charts and the rest of the pageantry. Let’s make International Women’s Day a small-scale event. Let’s recognise the women we meet every day at work and as we go about our daily lives. Let’s think about why some of them struggle to get along.

And most of all, let’s use International Women’s Day to remind ourselves – and everyone else – of who we are as women and why we should neither be forgotten or overlooked, no matter how ordinary or different we may be.

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.

Anna Einarsdóttir has specialized in researching non-heterosexualities both within the domestic sphere, and more recently, within the context of work. On completion of her PhD from London South Bank University, she joined the Morgan Centre for the Study of Relationships and Personal life, The University of Manchester, on a major ESRC funded study entitled Just Like Marriage?: Young Couples’ Civil Partnerships. Anna Einarsdottir then joined Manchester Business School on another ESRC funded project about the experiences of lesbians, gay men and bisexual of bullying and harassment at work. She now lecture in Organisational Behaviour and HRM at Hull University Business School and would welcome PhD interest in the following areas:

Personal and professional relationships 
(A)sexualised work and organisational spaces 
Gender, sexual identities and embodiment 
Equality, diversity and inclusion 
Bullying, harassment and discrimination